How to Tell if Your Partner Has Been Cheating

By Sarah Cook

Most of us tend to believe that it’s hard to tell whether or not the one we love is cheating on us. That can sometimes be the case, but usually only if you’re lying to yourself. If you’ve come to believe that it “just couldn’t be,” then you’ll never see it as so, and will in turn be missing out on the truth.

So, how do you remain honest enough with yourself to be mindfully awake enough to know when your honey is doin’ you wrong? Here are ten easy-to-recognize signs that your partner is being unfaithful.

1. Your partner is suddenly “working late” and spends a noticeably less amount of time at home.
2. Your partner becomes sexually distant and cuts way back on the sex, or, seems to have lost interest in making love altogether.
3. Your partner stops bringing you around his or her friends, and makes awkward excuses as to why.
4. If you’re married, your partner starts “accidentally” leaving his or her wedding ring at home on more than one occasion.
5. Unexpected phone calls come to the house that just happen to be “wrong numbers” or random “buddies” who go unnamed.
6. Your partner starts regular fights with you over what would appear to be nothing…things you wouldn’t have fought about before.
7. Your partner has boy or girl friends that he or she doesn’t ever bring around you, and instead, is always “meeting.”
8. You partner is suddenly emotionally detached – doesn’t want to talk about things, doesn’t want to spend time with you, doesn’t have much to say in general.
9. Your partner becomes less affectionate and does less and less hand-holding, cuddling, and kissing.
10. Your partner starts lying to you about little things, possibly covering up the bigger ones.

We all know what a bummer it is to be cheated on, and it isn’t something we have to put up with. If you’re a fair and honest person, you deserve a fair and honest person as your partner. If any of these signs are existing in your relationship and your partner refuses to talk through them, or, if the talking doesn’t seem to work, couples therapy is your best bet. And, if he or she refuses that option, well, the solution is clear – love yourself enough to say goodbye and open your arms to the possibility of a new and more beautiful relationship in the future.